Stop “Doing All The Things” AND Start Being This Instead

I’m done. There, I said it. I mean it: D-O-N-E.

What exactly am I over-and you might ask? I’m done with with all the mindless doing. I’m done with checking-off a bunch of meaningless “boxes,” that never seem to end. I’m done slaying all the world’s dragons and still feeling as though my “happy ending” is always one more page away. I’m done being in an unhealthy, long-term relationship with perfectionism. I’m done with silencing my own voice in favor of appealing to the noise of the crowd.

I want meaning. I want purpose. I want intention. I want my Happily Ever Now.

How about you? Aren’t you exhausted from living a life defined by someone else’s definition of greatness? Don’t you want to feel more by doing less?

You’ve “done all the things.” What if there’s something else to be rather than needing to become something more?

Here’s the shocker: You’re doing better than you think. You’re closer than you know to what you want, really. Give yourself permission to be enough right now.

All you have to do is pause. That’s right, pause. Seems weird, right?

Here I am telling you that the way to receive what you really want is to do less, not more. Pausing doesn’t mean you are stopped for good. What it really means is that it’s a good time to stop, at least for a bit of a break.

Stop striving for the sake of moving in some direction. Choose a specific intention and then pick a path that reflects it. Step into your choices, not away from them.

Don’t settle for confusion when clarity is possible. Silence any voice that isn’t your own within your mind. Ditch the checklist and check-in with yourself instead.

What do you want, really? What “impossible” dream do you long to share and speak into reality? Ask yourself. Listen to the silence. Allow it to speak your truth without judgment.

Enough with mindlessly doing all the things, it’s time to be enough exactly as you are, right now and not a moment later. Picture your life defined by your own terms; your own meaning; your own voice. How would that differ from what you’ve known so far? What’s keeping you from living your best life in the present, rather than senselessly searching for it in the future?

What do you need to stop doing in order to start being enough at this very instant?

Can you imagine the possibilities that await you from reconnecting with who you are beyond the checklist? What if you could transform your mindset of “not enough” into one of fulfillment?

I get it though. Change is a change. It’s not without its challenges.

Resistance creeps-in anytime you attempt to replace tried-and-true patterns with a new approach. Expect the hesitation and doubts. Don’t be surprised by them showing-up. Our egos don’t enjoy being silenced; they will protest…loudly!

However, a big awareness during your journey to Consciously Check-In is that noise doesn’t have to equate with meaning. In fact, more often than not, noise actually equates with meaning’s opposite. Silence is where the truth lives.

A good way to test if you’re being driven by your Inner Voice versus the ego is the absence or presence of silence. The ego is usually very talkative, negative self-talk that is…But, that’s not the case with your Inner Voice. It usually speaks very few words with great profoundness. There is a calmness underlying what you hear as your Inner Voice where as the ego is likely anxious and motivated by manifesting a very specific outcome rather than being open to the highest good meeting you in the present.

Ever since I can remember, I used to fall into the trap set by my ego under the guise of perfectionism. While I’m still in “recovery” when it comes to choosing a mindset not led by being perfect, more thoughts than not are now led by me believing I’m enough, period. The shift didn’t happen overnight, but it did happen.

If it happened for me, it’s possible for you to shift too. My biggest awakening came when I stopped checking off the mindless, meaningless boxes in life, delaying my happiness for “after” I proved I was enough and started checking-in with my true self by believing I am enough already anytime I believe Being Me is enough. I’m through waiting for the world to say I’m worthy of my fairytale: I’m ready to create my Happily Ever Now.

What about you? Has this been your story as well, up until now?

Are you ready to ditch the checklist and check-in with yourself instead?
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Hi! I'm Nanci Besser Reed. As a Mindset + Pilates Mentor, I help heart-centered women renew and reset their Mind AND Body via Pilates + Mindfulness. I offer private and group sessions via Zoom and other online platforms. I'm also a blogger and frequent contributor to aligned publications.

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