Once Upon A Time…
There lived a girl who chose to Ignite Kindly Conscious Conversations with everyone she met… and she lived happily ever after…uh, no!
Not even close.
Want to know my real story?
Like Alice and her Adventures in a Land of Wonder, I longed to answer my life-long question: “Who are you?”
I looked everywhere for the “meaning” of my life.“Why was I here and what was my purpose?”
Along my anything-but-linear life’s journey to discover my reason for being born, I was in a serious car accident.
As the passenger, I received the brunt of the impact from a 100-foot descent off the edge of the road above. It was nothing short of a miracle that I sustained only serious, though non-life-threatening injuries.
To this day, my nose twitches at the still-distinct memory of the car leaving the confines of the dusty country road.In one surreal moment we went over the edge of the cliff and the spinning wheels propelled us towards an unknown resting place.
Death seemed inevitable. Time froze. Visuals came.
All at once, my mind saw every past moment of unkindness I’d experienced. I saw them all and I wanted to do everything I could to undo the unkind in my life, and specifically within my mind and body.
The car landed with a lurch.
I was alive.
I crawled up the hill in the dark and knew for the first time in my life what I needed to do.
It turned out I did this “blind” climb while having a serious injury to my shoulder.
Once Purpose greets your life, “impossible” becomes possible in the most Miraculous of ways.
As soon as I reached the road, The journey To Go Kindly heal my life began.
I became a student of Kindness. I knew there had to be another way to live in this world.
My goal for perfection and control contributed to the unkind in my life and the broken relationships in my past.
I had to be willing to create space for others to be as they are and also to extend that grace to myself. The images I was shown during the accident empowered me to become Kindly Conscious in ALL of my relationships, starting with the one with my own Mind AND Body.
In the moment that time stopped and the images passed through my consciousness I set about to heal all relationships, including the one with myself and my own body.
The first step to healing involved addressing my shoulder injury. I tried everything to stop the pain. Nothing worked until I found Pilates.
Being a student of Kindness coincided perfectly with the fundamental teachings of Pilates.
Strengthening your Core is where all healing begins. You don’t have to hurt more in order to feel better. Small, mindful movements can have huge effects.
Blown away by own recovery from an “impossible” injury, I decided to defer enrollment in my PhD studies for Psychology in lieu of getting Certified to teach Pilates to others and share its approach to “conversing” Kindly with your Mind AND Body with others.
Teaching would become my life’s work and focus.
It is from this experience that I’ve been led to develop my mission:
Demonstrate How To Ignite Kindly Conscious Conversations With Your Mind AND Body by choosing to Go Kindly through ANY decision in ANY relationship
I’ve come to know that becoming a “Kindness Conversationalist” in life is simple, not easy. If I can teach myself how to become Kindly Conscious in the relationship with my own Mind AND Body, you can too.
Before the accident, I believed my happiness was tied to my ability meet others’ needs by being perfect. As long as I could be the perfect daughter, the perfect student, the perfect girlfriend (you get the picture)…then I looked like the face of innocence. How could they find fault with me if I attended to their every need? How could they ever be unhappy with me if I was perfect?
And yet, happiness eluded me. Why was this so? Could it be that in my quest to be perfect I chose against being Kindly Conscious?
This need for perfection created wedges in my relationships between what I thought someone needed and what they really wanted. My intention to be “helpful” was actually unkind to both of us.
Most of the conflicts that arose in my past relationships were due to my inability to relate without needing to control outcomes.
It wasn’t just transforming my mindset and becoming a “new” me. It was expanding my concept of “me” by embracing the truth that we are all enough when we choose to be present to what “is” and not directed by what “was” or what “should be.”
Soon after the accident, I began blogging as a form of “therapy” to further explore my near-death insights.
Years of study and personal transformative experiences led me to this moment.
Welcome, Kindness Conversationalist!
Join with me in my anthem to Go Kindly through life. Become a member of my Kindly Conscious Circle.
Once you choose to become a Kindness Conversationalist with your Mind AND Body, your life will never again be without meaning.
You will live a life based upon empowerment, transform all of your relationships (including the ones with your own Mind AND Body), become more Kindly Conscious in your decision-making and have a whole arsenal of insights via my Instagram-Featured Go Kindly Daily Truth lessons to apply towards each moment.
Bottom line: You will discover how to Shine and Share Your Light without defense or apology.