Inner Journey

Why I Stopped Posting To LinkedIn

Author’s Note: The issue I’m addressing is bigger than “LinkedIn.” It extends to every nook and cranny and hidden crevice and cornerstone of the Internet. This was originally posted to LinkedIn. Based upon the response I’ve received, I share it here as a reminder and call to action for all of us. Remember: We are all in this together.

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Why I Stopped Posting To LinkedIn

Hello Kind Reader. Welcome back to the inner workings and musings that are my writings. I’m curious: What made you click on this post? Was it curiosity? Or, was it perhaps a concurrence with my decision to stop posting new content? Whatever the reason and underlying motivation, I am glad you chose to indulge in a read.

Safe Haven No More
What happened to LinkedIn? It used to be a haven of professional discourse and true engagement. It was a stark contrast from other social networking sites. Sharing posts used to inspire me to write more. The last few pieces left me feeling semi-numb. On the whole the comments I received were positive, but a handful of individuals decided to use the comments as a forum to air their personal grievances with my topic choice or belief system.

Let me be clear: I welcome all constructive feedback. However, there is a great chasm between “constructive” and “cruel.” I accept a certain amount of risk being a writer in the first place. That being said, enough is enough. It’s time for us to stand together for “Intentional Engagement.” What I mean by Intentional Engagement is choosing to engage with others via a positive intention and mindset, not one of derision or projecting shame.

Revisiting the focus of my last post, let’s ponder the following question. “What is the purpose behind these ‘trolls’ directing diatribes at people they’ve never met just to cause a ‘disruption’ or to project their own dissatisfaction with their lives upon someone else?”

One doesn’t have to look very far amongst the plethora of “posts” to be assaulted by comments motivated to inflict emotional pain and negativity.

If the purpose of LinkedIn is to connect professionals by creating a forum to create something bigger than our individual selves, why do we tolerate the opposite occurring?

Don’t all of us deserve to share our thoughts without being eviscerated by someone’s intent to tear us down, rather than build-up the community as a whole?

Mirror Mirror…
As I mentioned in a previous post, the seeming anonymity provided by the Internet dulls our ability to practice basic empathy. I wonder if these “trolls” held up a mirror and read their comments aloud before typing them into their keyboard if they would still hit “enter.” The “mirror test” is a great litmus test for all of us to remember. The key consideration before posting any feedback online: Would you say these words to yourself? If the answer is not “yes,” then don’t share.

Let’s dig deeper into the online phenomenon known as “trolling.” The etiology of a troll according to folklore and fairytales is not surprising. Trolls are creatures that dwell in caves masked by the cloak of darkness. Per Norse myth and legend, “when exposed to sunlight, trolls turn to stone.” How about we modernize the age-old strategy to neutralize today’s social media variety.

Shine A Light

If we shine light upon the “trolls” on social media, we just might soften their impact and eventually “petrify” their efforts. Here is what I suggest. Anytime you encounter a “troll” type online, praise him or her for sharing their feedback. Regardless of what he or she says, show genuine gratitude. Eventually the troll will tire of not inciting a reaction and move on to the next target. However, their efforts will once again be met with “light.” Without causing an “effectful” disruption, the “troll’s” influence wanes until it disappears all together.

Reality Check
Some of you might think what I’m proposing is a Utopian fantasy and that “trolling” is here to stay. To that notion, I say we are stronger when joined “for” something than when we try to go against a perceived attack. If we stand together for Intentional Engagement, the purpose of LinkedIn transforms from lofty idealism into reality. We are not joining together against trolling. We are uniting to shine light into each conversation and discussion online. We don’t have to agree with each other, but we should agree to respect each other in our disagreements.

Holiday Wish
Change won’t happen overnight. It will unfold in increments each moment we choose to see each “other” as our “own.” Over time, our individual conscious responses could create a monumental difference by leaving a legacy of a “kinder” interspace and social network. What a great motivation to lead us into the Holiday Season and New Year. Let’s get started today: Will you join me and stand for Intentional Engagement?

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Nanci Besser is an advocate for social impact via “Intentional Engagement,” and is a Conscious Lifestyle Author, Blogger, Speaker, and Emotional Intelligence Specialist. She believes the key to empowered living is total surrender to the present moment.

Her Go Kindly™ movement and philosophy empowers everyone to rewrite his or her life story with the power and purpose of conscious decision-making through practical spirituality.

Nanci shares how to relate to your life from an empowered, conscious decision-making mindset via practical modalities such as workshops, videos, seminars, and private coaching. She is also available for speaking engagements, guest appearances and hosting opportunities.

Visit her website Follow her on Twitter @nancibesser and her Go Kindly #takeawayoftheday exercises via Instagram @nancibee Connect with her on LinkedIn or on Facebook

4 thoughts on “Why I Stopped Posting To LinkedIn

  1. I just read your article on “Finding Clarity” . . . .leaving an unhappy marriage. I have been searching for why I hate my life – searching by reading about other people and how they either endured or stayed, or just “snapped” one day and up and ran away.
    Your article was the closest I have read that described where I am, how I feel and what I know I must do. I am not angry anymore. But I read in someone else’s blog or post that you know it’s time when you envision the future. . . and that person is not in it. Or you search apartment listings and feel like you are on a mission of freedom.

    The difference in our lives is that you are so young, and I am older. This is marriage #2 – left marriage #1 basically for #2. (Still don’t regret leaving #1 – even if there had never been a #2).

    Again, I am older, mine is a 30 yr. marriage – yep – you would think we would have ironed out all the kinks. But, like you, there are signs of “narcissim” – not spelled right – always right. Tells me he has taken care of me all these years – even though I worked outside the home for over 30 years.

    He retired after an accident at work about 2 yrs. ago, and up til that time, a nighttime shift for him gave me lots of emotional freedom. . . not so much anymore.

    But, one thing, I am not financially dependent – it’s just that now it’s not the kids anymore that’s making me stick around, it’s what do I say to our 8 yr. old grandson?

    1. Hi Peggy, My apologies for the delay in responding. I’m sure life has taken you in a very different direction by this point, and yet I will send you a private email just in case you are still desiring some further clarity.

  2. Thank you, Nancy B , for sharing solutions to make the world a kinder place. I loved your explanation of the troll – yes, cast light upon them ! My best wishes for your continuing success. Linda

    1. Thank you, Linda. My apologies for the delayed reply. Life demanded I step away from writing for longer than I anticipated. I’m back now and appreciate your support and kind comments. I will send you a private email as well.

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