Responding in “kind” entailed me creating space for an outcome that is bigger than me. By meeting a situation or an individual, including myself, with a mindset of kindness, I released an investment in a specific result unfolding.
We all have preferences. There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting something specific to occur. Disappointment and resentment develop however when what “is” deviates from what we hoped would “be.” Allow me kind reader to share an example with you to illustrate my point.
Yesterday I watched a new TED Talks video with rapt attention. Emerging from a nearly two-decades cocoon of shame and guilt, Monica Lewinsky stood before her captivated audience. As an articulate “butterfly,” she took flight with her plea for a collective awakening of digital compassion. Her words inspired me to write a new article as an extension of her vision. I am not sharing it for “likes” or “views.” The only reason for its creation: It’s the “socially kind” thing to do.
If even one reader experiences an emotional remedy to a past wrong and receives a glimmer of hope within the present moment, then the effort hit its target.
It is my hope that reading this post will inspire you to begin your Monday as an opportunity to infuse your leadership relationships with the essence of empathy, compassion and kindness. We are all in this together.
As the editor, Laurie Wilhelm, of “Realizing Leadership” pondered: “Could a model for kindness be used to begin a shift in how we behave as leaders and the impact we have on others? Could this be a leadership growth opportunity to bring awareness to and initiate acts of leadership?”
Why are we so often hesitant to implement approaches to leadership that originate from the heart?
These were two “good” options with different projected outcomes. Approaching my delightful dilemma with determination to honor my true passion and drive helped to navigate the decision. I asked myself a crucial question: What choice would I make if money was not a factor?
Money as a motivator seems attractive to many of us. After all, we live in a transaction-based world where the common currency is strips of paper and metal discs rather than our consistency of character. How could we not base our accepted possibilities upon dollars and cents?
How do we quiet the incessant and often-nonsensical unhelpful static to make space to be led by the direction of our inner voice? In other words, how do we listen to our truth?
When we are faced with a pivotal choice it is amazing how many of us choose to ask everyone for what to do next except the one entity that actually lives with the effects of our decisions: Our inner self. Why do we give up our power? Why do we abdicate actively participating in our future?
A “slasher” is someone who is multi-talented and chooses to create a career based upon the integration of said abilities and skills into a customized mix of awesomeness/magical magnificence. Or, to put it in more corporate vernacular: Multitasking and synergy at their highest degree. Gone are the days of choosing a single focus and a solitary career path.
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A paradox emerges: In order to have enough future security, we must surrender our prior imaginings. It is now imperative to choose something specific and something solid. The whimsical wishes that filled our waking and sleeping dreams before adulthood now seem to only take place during slumbering respites in darkness.
Why? Why is being a “responsible adult” somehow equated with being dreamless? Why is whimsy regarded as a waste of time?
When considering your next career, pause and ask yourself this single question: “How do I align who I am with what I want to accomplish?”