In hindsight I thought nothing could be tougher to endure than my complex, unexpected, and “miraculous” pregnancy. Let me be crystal clear here: I was wrong. Sleepless nights with a ravenous, nursing newborn will bring any new mom to her knees. I was no different. The irony is that as both a student and teacher of […]
Hi Kind Reader, I realize it’s been a minute… For the past seven months, I’ve lived the life of an “intentional gypsy.” By that I mean, I’ve been living in the moment. Each day I wake up with the intention to “go kindly” through every instant by being present to a purpose bigger than me. You might say that I’m being in a Go Kindly relationship with myself.
My journey took me across cities near and far, into and out of various airbnbs, my parents’ guest room, friends’ sofas, and even one memorable night inside of my car. The new friendships and expanded professional networks formed along my trek produced incredible business and personal opportunities to practice Go Kindly in-action.
Responding in “kind” entailed me creating space for an outcome that is bigger than me. By meeting a situation or an individual, including myself, with a mindset of kindness, I released an investment in a specific result unfolding.
We all have preferences. There is nothing inherently wrong with wanting something specific to occur. Disappointment and resentment develop however when what “is” deviates from what we hoped would “be.” Allow me kind reader to share an example with you to illustrate my point.
Yesterday I watched a new TED Talks video with rapt attention. Emerging from a nearly two-decades cocoon of shame and guilt, Monica Lewinsky stood before her captivated audience. As an articulate “butterfly,” she took flight with her plea for a collective awakening of digital compassion. Her words inspired me to write a new article as an extension of her vision. I am not sharing it for “likes” or “views.” The only reason for its creation: It’s the “socially kind” thing to do.
If even one reader experiences an emotional remedy to a past wrong and receives a glimmer of hope within the present moment, then the effort hit its target.
What important choices have you made that reveal your perception of the value of your self-worth? Are there any insights gained from this post that could help you to look at your future options differently prior to making a pivotal career decision?
It is my hope that reading this post will inspire you to begin your Monday as an opportunity to infuse your leadership relationships with the essence of empathy, compassion and kindness. We are all in this together.
As the editor, Laurie Wilhelm, of “Realizing Leadership” pondered: “Could a model for kindness be used to begin a shift in how we behave as leaders and the impact we have on others? Could this be a leadership growth opportunity to bring awareness to and initiate acts of leadership?”
Why are we so often hesitant to implement approaches to leadership that originate from the heart?
Why does it require someone lying on his or her “deathbed” in order for us to be willing to forgive, apologize or say, “I love you?” Can you imagine what your overall life and relationships would be like if you interacted with everyone as though it was the last encounter between you and them?
Why is it that in the very end we immediately think back to the beginning? What is it about wrapping things up that piques our interest to revisit the past? 2014 was a year of so many endings and their correlated new starts.
When it comes to relationships with others and with ourself any sort of ending sparks a renewed focus upon how it all came to be.
Let’s all think back to the beloved holiday tale of redemption, Dr Seuss’ How The Grinch Stole Christmas. Why do we love this story? What about it entices us to revisit it even when childhood is a distant memory?